Ask the Tarot: My Partner’s Weed Addiction Is Hurting Our Relationship. Do We Have a Future?

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Michelle Tea: Hey, everybody. It's Michelle Tea. Thank you for coming to ask the tarot for Thursday night tarot salon where I will pick tarot cards for you guys. If you have a question for the Tarot. Just hit a little, you know, raise your hand sign and you'll go into like a stack, you know, and I'll I'll get to you guys one at a time. And I'm also going to be reading tarot for folks who sent me messages to my Instagram. It's another way if you want to elaborate or you want to be more anonymous, feel free to shoot me your question at on Instagram @michelleteaz T-E-A-Z. So I'm kind of going to go back and forth between them. If you love this show, why wouldn't you? But you know, if you do, if you do, you can go to Spotify. Give a little search for your magic. It's my podcast. I bet you'll like that too, and you'll find all the back. Ask the tarot rooms. They're sort of like little podcasts. You can listen to them while you're doing the dishes or walking the dog in the morning whenever you listen to your podcasts. Okay. I pulled together a bunch of questions that all have a love theme, and I'll tell you it wasn't hard to do because as you can imagine, if you're a true reader, you get a lot of questions about love. Everyone wants to know about their love life. OK, I'm going to start with one right now that came into my Instagram. I've met someone and have been seeing them on and off for about three months. This person is like no one I've ever met before, and it was one of those weird instant connection type of moments when we met, although I'm young and new to love. Cause I love this person so much, although I'm young and new to love, is so sweet and also like with good self-awareness. Because when I was young and new to love, I thought I was like, I thought I fucking knew everything. You know what I mean? Way to know what you don't know. Anyway, let's get back to it. Although I'm young and new to love, I feel like this is someone I shouldn't let pass me by. Yesterday, I had a conversation with them where we discussed how we felt about each other, and a lot of things that I was unsure about were made clear. But what I'm wondering now is whether I should try to pursue a relationship with them or not, although I really like this person. I have a few hesitations due to their past relationships to make things a little more complicated. I'm planning on moving country from Ireland to the UK by this time next year. Am I just overthinking or are these valid things to consider? Thanks, Isobel. OK, so I grab a deck of cards that I really like. It's called the collective tarot. It's this really great queer tarot, and I pick three cards just to be like, What does it look like? You know, if this person pursues a relationship with this very special person, OK? And they got really cool cards like I can see in these cards. How weird instant connection special this is, OK? The very first card that comes up is called reception, and it's a card that special to this deck. But it's really like that. It's kind of what is it? I believe it's the high priest of cards. It's their take on either the emphasis or the high priestess. It's like a psychic feminine card that has to do with like openness, right? Being open, being receptive, being ready to like, take it. You know, just like the there's like this beautiful like moon in the sky with the pomegranate, and there's this little creature who's laying on a bed and a giant hand. And it just feels like, yeah, like the universe gave you this beautiful connection and you should be open to it. And then the next two cards that have come up are two court cards. OK, there's the artist of Bones, which is sort of like a queen of disco sort of a card and then the artist of keys, which is sort of a queen of wands. And they're both really special characters, right? Like the artist of Bones is this like beautiful like horned animal, like an ibex skating watermelon and painting and just like enjoying life, like enjoying the fruits of life living in the moment? And then the artist of keys is kind of adorable. Do you see a corner of their body there in a wheelchair and they're leaning down, and they're putting these little paper boats with candles into a stream of these? These cars are so cute, and I just feel like, you know, this is saying artist the bones. Be here now. Enjoy the fruits that the universe has given you. Artist of keys make plans for the future. Send little boats out down down the little stream. You know, like on the one hand, you are overthinking it. Like, you can just be in the moment and receive what's coming to you. And then with the artist of keys, I feel like you can kind of make little plans, you know, like you don't need to be like, How are we ever going to get married if we live in different countries like that's not what this needs to be, right? This is more like, Oh my god, this is so fun. I love being with you. When can we see each other again? So I hope that was helpful. All right, I'm going to put this away. Go back to my handy talk tomorrow that I always do readings with, and let's see who has their hand up. It's Brianna.

Querent: Hi, can you hear me? Thank you. Thanks for calling on me. I'm so excited. Oh, I would like to know about. So I'm graduating soon, and I'm wondering what it looks like for me to stay in the US or to try and find an opportunity to go abroad?

Michelle Tea: Ooh, OK, cool. So the first question is, what does it look like for you to stay in the U.S.? And hey, I'm going to do one more little shuffle on that and three cards? And now what does it look like to go abroad? You know where you'd like to go, are you?

Querent: I'm pretty open considering London.

Michelle Tea: Yeah, right?

Querent: London or elsewhere.

Michelle Tea: Oh, that sounds so fun. I, Michelle Tea want to just tell you, of course you should go abroad, but we'll see what the tarot has to say. Tarot is picking up on energies that are beyond me. So let's see. Ooh, it looks really good for you to stay here and for going abroad. Yeah, abroad doesn't look as good, sadly. So for staying here after college, the first card that came up for you is the seven of wands, and that is a little bit of a hard card. It is like all the sevens are hard in this deck anyway, and this is one of the least hard sevens. It's basically like you have a lot of energy, but there's been so much being asked of you that like it, just things feel hard. You know, when the Sun comes up, it's Mars in Leo, which you would think would be rad, right? Because Leo is a fire sign and it wants to be out about and Mars is a big engine, but it's almost too much energy, and I'm not really understanding where to put it. But the good thing about that card is that it does speak to it is still like you win the battle card. It's just saying that there's a little bit of a battle first. So there's that. But get this like the cards that come after it. Fortune, the wheel of Fortune comes after that. And then six sets the six of discs. So, you know, I don't know if that seven is like it might just be hard for you, perhaps to figure out where in the where in the U.S. you want to go. Maybe landing in a new place in the U.S. is a little discombobulating. Maybe it's hard to find your place at first, but damn, when you find it, it looks amazing. Like really great now for leaving. The very first part is the night of death, which is very odd because he is the one night whose hooves are not on the ground. So he's not really a traveler, but it is a bit of a pause, right? His energy is about sort of like not really making a move. And then the next card is the two of wands, which is dominion, and that's a big like, high energy card. And then you have interference. So that's really what I'm looking at is that, you know, the three cards that came up for you staying in the US, you got a beautiful major arcana, you got fortune who doesn't want to get out of college and get the fortune card. And then in the cards for leaving, you got a hard card, the interference card. You got this kind of confusing energies with the night of discs, who's not moving and then the two of wands, which is just moving way too fast. It doesn't look, it looks weird and unbalanced, but staying here, it looks like there's something gorgeous waiting for you.

Querent: Yeah, that resonates so much. Thank you so much.

Michelle Tea: You're very welcome and good luck, whatever you do. Okay. Oh gosh. To be graduating college and pondering London now. All right. Let me see. We have another lovelorn card here. OK, here we go. I'm 18 years old and I recently went through my first actual love and she broke up with me after one year of dating. So sorry. He was one of my closest friends, too, so it makes it harder. When he broke up with me, he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship and it wasn't anything to do with me, but his mental health was really bad. Yet he couldn't lose me. And eventually he wanted to try to get back into a relationship, even if he didn't know what would happen. It's been a month and a few weeks, and he's still committed to being my friend. It's hard for me because I can't separate the two, but I'm still hopeful something will work out. At the same time, it's painful to see us in any other way. I value him and his mental health and I want to be there, but I feel that it's worsening mine. I don't want to let go completely, but I also don't want to be used if he's just about like, Oh my God, that sounds so complicated. It sounds very, very complicated. So, you know, a complicated situation got a complicated draw of cards, right? Not a big surprise. I'm using for this reading and using a deck called the Wanderers Tarot line drawings. But the line drawings are white on black, so they're very striking. I'll put pictures on my Instagram afterwards. So, you know, I picked three cards for like, you know, what does it look like for this person to stay connected, right? Because they don't want to let go completely? What does it look like for them to stay connected and see what happens? And of course, we're keeping an eye on. I'm keeping an eye on in this reading for to get red flags right about this person and are they using her because they're not, you know, not even maybe they don't even realize they're doing that. I could imagine a situation like that. And then I pick three cards for like, what if she just lets go and goes on her own? OK. Weirdly enough, they are both good. Like, I kind of think the way to do this is for this person to put, as they say, an Al-Anon. Put the focus on herself, put the focus back on yourself, keep this person in your life. But don't make them the center of your life now. It might be hard after having dated for a year, but let me tell you the cards I got for staying connected to this person. The first one, the first card that came up is philosopher of Stones. OK, so that's a sort of, you know, it's a court card in the first area. And this person is not quite as grounded, though. I mean, they're sort of like being the philosopher. They're very interested in ideas. And it made me think maybe a little bit that it is this person, not the person who wrote me, not the parent, but you know, the guy that that she was seeing that he's just sort of like, not grounded enough right now. He's he's too interested in like, you know, looking at everything else that's around him. And I mean, my God, she's 18. You know, how old is this other person? You guys are very young. It's not wild. You know, it's not not that's not unexpected. The third card that was picked is also a Stones card, and it is the turn of stones. And on this in this jug, it really means an ending, OK? But in the middle, the middle card that you got for this is the world, and the world is so beautiful, so magical, so special. I think that the message that the of stones are sending is that this relationship is over. You know, the romantic relationship of it is over, at least for now, and it should be really accepted as such. You know, even if you guys get back together in three years, it doesn't matter. Right now, it's over. And so you should really be interacting with it like you guys are no longer a couple. But that world card, to me, is very special, and it really suggests that at the very least, you guys are very close friends and it's important. But listen, what's also important is you taking care of yourself? This person might be the philosopher of stones, but you are the wanderer of moons. That is a beautiful card is another court card. Moons, I believe, is the cups steward of cups in this and the wonder of moons. It's like you've got the water moons and then you've got the floor. OK? And I'm like, Oh my God, you need to go off on your own. You need to be the wanderer of moons and go off and have your own emotional adventures that have nothing to do with this person that show you different aspects of your own self that show you different aspects of the world and of humanity, of love and of friendship. Your final card is the four of moons, and that's about like a kind of a stability emotional stability card. So I feel like by pulling away, not cutting this person off, but these days centering them, you know, they're sort of centered. It feels like they cannot be the center of your life, no matter how great of a other friend they might be to you, how special your connection you need to go jump off the cliff like the Fool does into a whole new environment, whole new situation. And that is how you're going to get back in touch with yourself and get some, some emotional stability. You don't sound super unstable, but you know any anyone is knocked off kilter by a breakup. So that's your way out, I think. Good luck to you. All right. Let's see who has their hand up here in the room. Nadia, I hope I have your name, right? Nadia, you are up next. Nadia.

Querent: I'm so excited. So, you know, it's funny. The first caller who came on. Her situation was pretty similar to mine. I met somebody new and the way we met it was fantastic. I'm a daughter right now and I was picking up some food and the guy behind the counter at the time, the manager. You just had something familiar about him and I was like, I recognize myself with him. Somehow in his eyes, I don't know. Yeah. And like, super serendipitous. All that I was like, You know, here's my number. And to me, it felt it felt and I wasn't trying to like, flirt with him or like, you know, you start a relationship or anything. I was just like, he was like, he needs a friend. I feel like we would get each other. So like if my numbers said, Hey, if you ever need anything, give me a call. So a couple of weeks later, he called me. We talked a little bit. He disappeared. He got back in my life like two three weeks later. I mean, three weeks ago, it's kind of magical. I really enjoy him. She's fine. Romantic. He's silly, is ridiculous. But he's also kind of like a wild child. And I am I'm not super serious, like I'm a guilty person, but I'm also like, I'm a very strict family and I have just like all these expectations and like very strict, very religious parents hovering over my shoulder that I can. Really get away from various technological advances they have that I can't find a way out of yet. It's like, OK, so I can pursue a relationship with this wonderful human. He's probably the best guy I've ever met as far as emotionally and relationally, but on paper, the people would scoff at him. So even like my parents.

Michelle Tea: People like people like your parents.

Querent: You know, because he's kind of in not the party scene. He's like a hippie. So OK. You said you were just kind, but you know, my parents know how parents are. So what do you think? Yeah.

Michelle Tea: Okay. So let's see. I'm going to see now I'm gathering your feeling. You're there is like romantic vibe, because if you go unnoticed, like, who cares, right? It's the it's got. It's romantic. Okay, so what does it look like for you? I'm asking for you to keep putting romantic energy into this person. Is it in your highest good? I'm going to ask you to stop while I'm shuffling. And thank you. You didn't miss that much. We have a question right now from somebody who found a magical connection with a really fun, silly, romantic person who's a bit of a hippie and her parents will probably not approve. So we and her parents are very much in her head for better or worse. So we're going to see what it looks like. First of all, if she just continues to like, follow and follow your bliss with this person thinking three cards sounds like there is some bliss. And let me see what it looks like. If you're like, you know something, I really enjoy you. But you know, I don't know that like, you're my ultimate truth romantically. I'm going to, you know, take a step back from the romance of it. And maybe just, I don't know. See if you can put it in the friend zone because the person sounds special. It sounds like you were drawn into each other's path for a reason. But is it a romantic reason? OK, let's see. Um hmm. Very. And oh yeah. Wow. OK. OK, listen, you don't want to stop seeing this person. This person is really important to you. If you did stop seeing them, you would come out on the other side of your intense misery. I mean, oh my god, OK, I'm actually seeing something kind of possibly big here. Let me just tell you what I'm saying. So for the three cards for like, do you keep seeing this person? The first card you have is the four of swords. It's called truth. OK, so that's actually quite beautiful. It's Jupiter in Libra, and it's sort of like, OK, I'm making peace with the elements of this person that like, don't hit my all my standards, right? I have this little list of romantic standards. I didn't write the whole as my parents wrote some of it, you know, other people in my life wrote, some of it. Who knows that shit can be so confusing. But you know that he's not checking all the boxes and you're going to make peace with that. Easier said than done. The next part is strife. It's the five of wands. It looks like there's really something for you to get over here because the final card for you staying with this person is the magician. It's like literally magic, right? You're like, it feels magical, yet feels magical because it is magical. But there is this conflict, right? You have to deal with the conflict. You can't. You're going to have to deal with it. I mean, you can make your peace that truce on your own. But that truce, the truce card, is about you making peace with yourself. That truce is not about you making peace with your parents. That looks harder. I think that's what the strike energy is. But like, OK, this is really wild. If you stop seeing him, you get the tower card and say, OK, that's pretty extreme, right? The tower card for just pulling back from a sweet, happy that you met randomly and have been hanging out with for a few weeks. I don't think it's about him. I think it is. He could be a very powerful catalyst, but I think that if you start seeing him, you know, the power is about a system that doesn't work anymore or a system that is poisonous or toxic that needs to go. It's painful. It's very painful. And I'm like, Well, what is that? It's like your parents voice in your head, right? It's the influence that your parents are having over you as an adult. Right. Like that's that should feel good. I mean, that's, you know, I don't want to deem it toxic. I don't know what it feels like for you, but the it seems like, how are you going to be a free and independent person making the decisions that are best for you? If if that's what's happening, right? So I think that if you decide to stop seeing him, you're going to be catapulted into the tower, which is not necessarily a bad thing, right? Because it seems like maybe it's a way for you to to break out of this. The next card is the indolence card that is a card about emotional neglect. OK, it's Saturn in Pisces, and that the vibe of getting off of that is like the way you're neglecting your own emotional how. Venus, it could also be that you are neglecting him and you feel sad about that, and it might be that like you just need that, you just need to walk through it and feel what it feels like to let your parents run your life and to neglect your own emotional truth. Right? And in order to kind of be left to wake up a little bit about it, right? I mean, you sound very conscious of it, but it seems like maybe another level is is required for your most, most happiness. Listen, the last card for this is the star. OK, so after the Tower Tower is Card 15 and the Tarot, the star is 16. After the rubble of the tower. After the old toxic way falls away, we get the start. We get clear skies. We get inspiration. So I mean, this is really interesting. It's like, I think I think that you might end up finding your way back to him regardless, right? Or he is a catalyst to get you to stand up to your parents and really make some boundaries as far as the influence you want them to have on your life. You know, it's it's interesting. It seems like if you just keep him in your life and kind of engage with the strife card and hold on to him as the magician, it's not the tower, right? So I wonder what that means. Maybe it's easier for you to do it that way, because at least you're standing up for yourself, right? Right from the beginning, instead of resentfully breaking up with him and then having this like dark revelation about it. It's like you get the star one way and the magician the other way. It's like, either way, I think this person is definitely as special as you think they are. Does that make sense?

Querent: Yeah, absolutely. I love the word catalysts. So when I when I so I don't really give my number out to random people. And so I got in my car looking for a piece of paper, and I, as I was looking for the piece of paper, I'm like, This is weird, what are you doing? And I kind of like, prayed about it a little bit. I was like, OK, is this right that I give my number to him? Should I not? And it felt more right to give my number to him, and I'm like, Well, the normal thing is for me not to. And I was like, Well, what happens if I don't? And the feeling that came to me or like the thought was, are you prepared for the consequences if you don't? I was like, OK, I guess I'll give him my number.

Michelle Tea: Oh my God, it sounds like you were completely messages in that moment, and I'm glad you're holding on to those, because that's that's very unusual, right? To get such and such a clear message about somebody. Yeah. So you will have to report back to us on how the romance is going.

Querent: Yes, ma'am. I appreciate it.

Michelle Tea: You know, I appreciate you tuning in and participating. Good luck to you. Listen, you guys, I got to be honest with you, I'm an Aquarius and I love a hippie. I'm a hippie at heart. I think all Aquarians are. OK, let's see. Let's see what next lovelorn person we can help. OK, this is this is interesting. My partner has been struggling with cannabis addiction. Cannabis is a sneaky one. It appears harmless, but can really throw a wrench in the gears. Listen, I have to say I was with a cannabis addict for almost a decade, and it is so true and it is so gnarly that there is this kind of widespread belief that you can't be addicted to cannabis because like, I lived with someone who was like scraping the resin out of the bottle and like smoking the dust. And oh, it was just it was gnarly, guys. It was gnarly. So yes, here to validate that. OK, back to the letter. We've been together for 3.5 years, and the last two plus years have been difficult to live with him in his active addiction. We recently hit a wall and have taken a step back. We're going to couples counseling right on. Love that. And he is moving out for us to go back to dating as he finds his way back to himself. I want to ask the tarot what does our relationship look like down the line with these investments? Will it be worth it or are we better going our own ways? And how should I approach this transitional period case? This helps. I'm Virgo Sun, Gemini Moon and Rising and Leo Venus L.O.L. I know he is Scorpio Sun Cancer Moon. OK, I love. I love getting those astro dates, so I grabbed my Aquarian Tarot for this. And you know, the first thing the first three cards I picked were just like, Yeah, what is it? Look like down the line because of these investments? I love that you're calling them investments. Virgo Sun. It's like it isn't investing in couples. Counseling is an investment. You know, going back to dating raised a little bit of a red flag because a lot of times when I think when people try to dial back the intimacy it is, you know, it's the first step out the door. But listen, I really don't think that's the case here. I think that you guys are just being creative and honest about where you're at and trying to hold on to things down the line, what it looks like. It looks really nice. The very first card is strength, which is like, I love that card because to me, the strength card is is a little bit about sobriety. To me, it is like a major arcana sobriety hit because it's if you think about, you know, the classic read on the strength card is, you know, we're overcoming our base desires as humans. I think that wait, someone's making you just sugar. Don't distract me with your delicious meals, you guys. Oh my god, I love sugar. OK. Anyway, so you know, you can see addiction as sort of one of those animalistic urges where you know you just want to feel good all the time and you're just going to go after it no matter what. So I see the strength part is really being able to get a handle on it, getting a handle on the addiction and living in your strength. So beautiful. The next card nine of Pentacles. Oh, a lovely, lovely card of just like you know the person is is in their garden with like a beautiful pheasant or peacock or something on their shoulder. There's grapes growing in the vineyard. The trees are green. It's just very nice. It's like, Yes, we love this grounded, happy, pretty home. And then we have the page of swords. So it's really interesting because, you know, pages are, you know, they're learning, right? They're learning. And so pages, I know as a sober person when when you get sober, you are a page right people in their new sobriety or even even sobriety, even old sobriety, if you're sober at all, you're kind of always a page in a weird way because you're you're constantly having to navigate the world in new and different ways and sort of accumulate coping skills that maybe you didn't get because you were using your addiction to cope. Other people were maybe getting coping skills. So you're starting, you know, there's this really great thing that you start growing emotionally at the age that you start using, you know, so I started drinking really alcoholic when I was 15, and so when I quit drinking at the age of like thirty two, I was essentially 15 years old emotionally and had to learn throughout the years how to grow up. And so that tracks for me. So, you know, you might you might find that your your sober partner, even though you're so glad that he's sober and you support him like he might be a little bit of a dingbat, too, because he's learning how to do everything all over again. I picked three cards for what it would look like for you to walk away from this. OK, like what is it? What you said yourself? You know, are we better going our own ways? So I said, Well, what does that look like? I got the Knight of Swords, the 10 of Pentacles and the clincher for me, the eight of cups. I mean, no, not with that. Not with it ending on the eight of cups. There's a real sorrow and walking away from this, like, will you move on? Yeah, everyone will move on. You know, the 10 of Pentacles, you know, we saw that in the wonders tarot. It's an ending. So, you know, in the query intro, it's it looks like a happy ending, but so we see it as an ending. But that date, of course, it's that person who's walking away regret for regretfully from the stack of of Charles's. So, you know, I don't like that when, not when, not when the other read is so pretty. And then I asked, finally, you know, how should you approach this transitional period? How can you be, you know, a good, you know, a good partner, a good date? And said, You guys are dating now, I got to tell you, you might want to go to Al-Anon. It is so awesome for you when you are in a relationship with somebody who's an addict, whether they're using or not, and it's really, really great. So that said, what's helpful for you for four of odds, OK, which is like the four of wands, your own stability. I know the laws are very stable, right? And you know, the the the four, this is interesting in the in the right way, Jack. It's called completion and it means like you've made it through a certain part of a cycle. And so, you know, really looking at like you guys have been through a lot and really honoring that, you guys have been through a lot and you've got a lot way, a lot more of a road together. To me, it seems, but honoring and respecting, you know what, what you guys have been through together and also like making sure that you pay attention to your own stability because you know, the people getting sober, they're blown every which way it can be. It can be hard, right? So you want to make sure that you're keeping the focus on yourself. Is that the theme of the night, keeping the focus on ourselves? You want to keep the focus on yourself as much as possible. You also got the two of swords. And that's interesting because that is a card of indecision, really, right? She's holding the two swords. She's blindfolded, but I'm seeing it as a kind of a positive like, don't make any big decisions. OK, that's how you should handle this transitional period. Don't come to any conclusions. Don't put your swords down with your blindfold off and take off because things are going to change and your partner is going to change and you want to, you want to really make decisions when things are a little more stable, OK? And your final card the empress? Oh my God, how beautiful. I mean, you are just love, right? And you just want to love this person. You want to love yourself and you want to love this person. And and just be gentle, you know? I mean, I think the empress is a gentle and nurturing sort of divine feminine energy. And so you want to channel that as much as you can without being a doormat. You never want to be a doormat. But, you know, I think that it sounds like you're your partner is meeting you halfway, you know, and taking taking the seriously going to couples counseling. So it looks like you can maybe afford to be emotionally generous. So good luck to you guys. I'm rooting for both of you. All right. Let me see who else we've got here in the room. Bunny. Oh my god, what a great name, bunny, you're on. How can the tarot help you?

Querent: Hey, I think. Can you hear me now? Yes. Okay, great. Thank you so much. I'm so excited. I have a career question if that's OK. So I work in nonprofit supporting people with developmental disabilities. It's been a tough time during the pandemic, but I've also been working on getting licensed as a therapist, which I am super excited about, and I'm just trying to, I guess, determine which direction to focus my energy and transitioning from my current role to therapy. So I have three and three options I'm toying with. One is to propose a part time role at my current employer so that I can branch out into private practice therapy part time.

Michelle Tea: Cool.

Querent: I do also have the option of doing a similar combination with my previous employer. My old boss reached out to me with a job offer that I wasn't expecting. And then I would do that part time while beginning to grow your therapy practice.

Michelle Tea: OK, right?

Querent: Yeah. And then the third option is to say no to both of those situations. You know, I've been in those roles before. I know that they do take a lot out of me. Should I just really take the plunge and look for therapy jobs and start a new year?

Michelle Tea: All right. So I'm doing a shuffle on that last option right now. Just jumping into your new occupation and not having a part time job that actually probably feels a little bit more than part time emotionally. OK. So for the first one, first, you know, seeing if you can do part time where you are, it looks a little tricky, but you can. You can get it. You can definitely get it. You got the stripe cards. So there's something I don't know if you get to know it first or there's a push back, but then you get the magician and the ace of wine, which are beautiful. So, yeah, that looks like it can definitely happen for you. It looks like the other job, even though it's been, it's offering a similar circumstance or circumstance that you want. It doesn't look as good. You have the Night of Swords, the love card, which is beautiful, the two of cups. So there might be something there. Did you? Do you have fond memories of working there? Yeah, I do. Yeah, yeah, it looks like it would be very sweet. But then you get the three of swords. So it was something something is not, you know, we're looking at like therapy being ultimately what you want to work towards, right? That's your highest. That's what you really want. Oh my god, it kind of does look like you should. Oh, I'm torn for you. OK, so so for just jumping right into therapy, the first card you have is the lovers, and I kind of love that. I mean, the lovers card. I feel like the lover in the in the card isn't always like, you know, like a human being that we're lovers with. It could be all these other things that we interface with, and I feel like there's this calling this this vocation of therapists for you is the lover. It is like, you're going to marry me or what, you know, like, are you? Are you with me? And then the next two cards you get, you get the queen of discs. She is very she's Capricorn, right? So she's not fucking around Capricorn. Ask you your sign. Yeah, I'm an Aries with Leo Moon and cancer. Cool. Oh, you're gonna be a great therapist. But Capricorn, they're business and they want to be their own boss, right? They want their Capricorns work best working on their own or being in charge, right? And so she has the capacity for that. For that, she's great at it. It's what she wants. And she's just like sitting on her giant pineapple, surveying her kingdom, looking at everything she has. And then you have the Prince of Wands, which is the Big Leo card, and he's just jumping out into into life and he's radiant. You know, there's just rays of fire and sunshine kind of bursting. It's like his cape is made of fire. He has this beautiful halo. There's a lion pulling his chariot. It's so alive. And I really love the the marriage here with the lovers card of the queen of of discs, who is so work oriented and career oriented and capable with this prince of wands, who is so passionate, it has so much energy. You know, you can definitely get what you want. You can make that part time job happen for you. And it wouldn't ultimately be bad, but it does look like a little more exhilarating and like stepping more firmly into your destiny to just go for it.

Michelle Tea: Yeah, I mean, you're welcome. Good luck to you. Oh my gosh, you guys are so nerve racking, right? Just like leaving your job, your day job to just like jump into your passion story. But people do it all the time, right? And we can take courage and inspiration from them. OK, let me see. I have this another reading here, OK? This one is very interesting. OK? All right. Where'd was where does it start? I have been in a relationship for nearly seven years now, and my boyfriend and I met at 18 and are now 24 and 25. We've had our own issues in the past. A lot of it attributed to us going through our peak growing years together and becoming better adults. He is a wonderful boyfriend. He's caring, extremely supportive of all my passions and interests. Affectionate, honest and fun. He really is my best friend. The last year or so, however, I've been having these doubts and fears about our relationship. We have been talking more recently about marriage and our own place to live, and we both want the exact same things. However, I am a hard worker with two jobs and a degree, and he is chasing his passion in music and not seeing financial gain from it. We have had an argument or two about how I fear for our stability in the future. If he doesn't simultaneously get a full time job to help me out with our expenses. I don't know if the 70s was, if it was a typo. We recently had a great deep conversation and read tarot together. That's so sweet. The cards had good and bad, and we decided to slow down on marriage and focus on bettering our relationship. However, I do still have these doubts and fears. Every time I tried to pull cards on it, my head feels clouded and confused with emotion, so I haven't gotten clear messages. I'm hoping you can ask the cards what our future looks like together if we keep working at this and what our future looks like if we decide to part ways. Who? OK, so listen for this reading. I use the Radiance Tarot. It's like very classic classic Rider-Waite ask, but with very, sort of very. Any kind of European pagan symbols, although, well, maybe pagan from many cultures, anyway. I fixed three cards on staying together and boy, oh boy, it looks so bad. It looks really bad and like, I'm pairing this with you saying Quarians about how what a wonderful boyfriend this person has been, and I believe you. But for, you know, it just doesn't matter, is what it looks like to me. You know, sometimes you can be with a wonderful, wonderful person. And if you've just outgrown each other, I mean, it's rough to connect with your soul mate at age 18. Am I right? I mean, oh my gosh, I can't imagine if I was still with the person I was with when I was 18. But you know, it's it's OK for you to give yourself permission to have outgrown the situation and, you know, not being on the same page financially or with ambition, you know, that can be tricky. It's also something that lots of couples figure out how to work out. So to me, it seems like, OK, you know, I'm not an invalid. I'm not trying to invalidate that. That's a real issue. But it also seems like there's probably something more behind it, right? And it seems like you know it in your body, but it might not make sense or it might be hard to articulate. It might not be logical. But here's what the cards say about you guys staying together. First Card 10 of Swords Okay. Oh my gosh. You know the Hanged Man. I don't like it in this situation. If it was earlier in in the reading and then there were good cards after it. Oh, you guys. Oh, I can hear. I can hear. I'm sorry. I I'm looking at the chat right now and I'm seeing I'm seeing that I was I was not audible for a minute. I don't know why that happened. I'm not touching my phone. It stopped after the tennis court. OK, thank you. Well, let me follow back up after the tennis awards, comes the devil and then the hanged man. Oh my God, this is a big no to me. I mean, the devil. It's like, you're you're like going against like, I just feel like the devil is there. Like, almost like a guardian, like looking at you and saying, like, you know what you need to do and you're not doing it. The Hanged Man is very much about, you know, he meant to be great, of course, but I don't like it in this kind of a situation. You're putting yourself in a really uncomfortable situation because you hope something better is going to come. But I don't know. It's the last part I don't see. I don't see if that's really coming right now. The cards for you leaving are also hard, right? And how are they not going to be hard there? It's a break up. OK, so to me, you're leaving cards, you got some little break up cards. The first card you got is the strength card. So that to me, is really orienting as far as like, what do you really want because you're talking about how hard it is to get clarity when you're when you're reading your own cards? I mean, the string part, I think is saying like, you want to gather that strength, it's Leo. You want to go after your heart's desire and this wonderful man just might not be your heart's desire anymore. The next card you have is the nine of swords. Okay, it's going to make you anxious. It's going to be hard for you to detox from this relationship. After the Nine Swords is the 10 of wands that is a card about being oppressed and burdened. OK, so I don't see. I don't think that you don't. I don't believe in a world where you have no choices. Every choice is bad. I mean, sometimes you do have to walk through kind of a shitty path for a minute. I don't think that this reading is saying that if you guys break up, you're never going to be happy. I think that it's just saying it's really speaking truth to how hard it will be for you, even if it is what your truth is. You might want to look at like, why are the reasons that you want to stay? You know, are you afraid to be by yourself? I'm looking at that anxiety card that nine of swords is it? Does it just feel better to have somebody near you? It's scary to be all on your own in the world, and you haven't been on your own since you were a teenager, and that's that's a big deal. Lt. Was, you know, it's there's like that's about a little bit of a burden and you're expressing that he is a little bit of a burden in the relationship and that he doesn't contribute financially. But is there something about that that that you've liked in a weird way where it kind of makes you feel like the big daddy? I don't know. I'm just seeing that there are some things that need to be processed by you outside the relationship when you get outside of it. And I would say to get outside of it because I don't like the cards for you being in it, I'd rather have you gather your strength right and do some soul searching, do some hard ask soul searching. I would rather that than you staying in some relationship, trying to swallow down your intuition, your instinct and your fears all the time. That sounds awful. So best of luck to you. All right.

Michelle Tea: If you turned in more recently, you are listening to ask the tarot, I'm Michelle Tea and the author of the book Modern Tarot and the host of the podcast Your Magic, which you can find on Spotify. All right. And now I'm going to see who is here, who wants their cards, right? Jasmine. Hi, Jasmine.

Querent: Hi, Michelle, how are you today?

Michelle Tea: I'm great. How are you doing? How is Aquarius season?

Querent: I'm doing good? I'm sorry. I didn't hear at first, but I just raised my hand for like an energy rating, if that's possible.

Michelle Tea: Sure. What's? What do we want to read the energy on? Is that your own energy? Is it a situation?

Querent: Yeah, it's a situation. It's nothing too bad, but it is basically as I've started this class that has taken like a lot of energy, you know, it just started. I feel like it's going to take a lot of energy because it's a film production class and it's six hours for each class, but luckily it's just once a week. And so the first day and this is why I need my energy back on it, because on the first day, it took me an hour to find the class like I was roaming up and down the side of a road looking for this class that was supposed to just be parked right up front for me to go to. And so when I got there, I was the last person I was like cold to the bone. And it was just like I was still determined to find the class, and I'm so glad that I did it. But I just want to make sure like, you know, and the energy that I'm putting forth for this class is going to be reciprocated back towards me.

Michelle Tea: Okay, let's see what we've got here. Let's see what we got. You know, sometimes a funny, a funny, sometimes bad day is just a bad day. You know what I mean? This looks great for you, Jasmine. The very first card that comes up is the works card, and that is about like, it's about work. It's Mars in Capricorn and again, Capricorn. You know, they're not Capricorn relationship to work is they want something that is meaningful, something that propels them forward in life, something that's challenging and rewarding and lucrative. So this is great for you. I mean, I I know from speaking even to you in the past that you're passionate about film and this works hard, is it? Go down the street and get a job at the pizza shop unless you're doing that so that you can then write your great novel or something. You know, the works card is really about your life's work. And following that and right after that, you have the abundance card. It's beautiful. Three, Of course, it's like, Oh my god, yeah. If you're aware, if you're wondering if this class is going to give you energy back, yes, it will. I think I think it's going to ask you to work really hard, but I think the rewards are going to be really beautiful because your last card is the star. I think it's exactly where you're supposed to be. I think that this is, you know, this is the training that you need in order to chase down your big dreams. Yeah, for sure.

Thank you. Because you know what? Like, I felt like I my mom thought I was crazy for just roaming the side of the highway. She was like, Why don't you just come back home? I was like, I just spent 20 dollars to get here, like, why would I go back home? And then the classroom long enough for me to at least learn something in what within the hours that I will have left of the class. So thank you.

Right? You're so well. I mean, yeah, you miss one hour. You still got five hours. Yeah, it's and it's like what you want to do. It's like it's one of those vacations that you do need, like some technical training, right? Like that would to you. So yeah, this looks great for you. I just think another car. Two of wands dominion. Yeah, you're going to kick ass. You're going to definitely apply 110 percent, but you'll get you'll get it all back.

All right. Thank you, Michelle. You enjoy your night.

Welcome bye. Oh my god, Venus. I saw a Mercury retrograde exactly where if you had to be this real, you guys. I mean, I kind of like it because I really do feel that interesting things from the past come back around in a way that's interesting, and I feel like I like that as a creative person. It's often like I'll come back to a project I abandoned, but damn, but just the travel glitches and the electric tech glitches. They're very real. OK, you know what else is real? The problem with this next person has written me about, Let's get into it. OK, I'm a fan and then sexual, kinky, polyamorous parent of two young kids in a heteronormative relationship with my extremely amazing husband. All right. Laying it all out there, I ended a 1.5 year relationship with my girlfriend this past summer and iced her out while we both did some much needed healing. I recently made contact with her again after being brutally stalked by the five of swords. It ended up being a great decision, and we've maintained a healthy friendship with great boundaries for a couple of months. I can tell there is still this primal attraction on both our ends, but I think it would be toxic if we fell into a relationship with each other again so soon before we have proper time to work on our individual selves. I haven't been overeager to reenter the dating field because of some. Has sexual trauma and broken trust from my relationship with my ex-girlfriend and the belief that I have difficult standards. I'm autistic and ADHD and demi demi and have abandonment issues, etc. So you're a human being, basically. And the pandemic really burnt me out with all my responsibilities. I'm a stay at home parent, but I've noticed lately that I keep thinking about reopening my dating accounts. I've done a lot of healing and growth in the past few years, especially these last six months. So after that long opening in context, I'm wondering what do the cards look like? First, if I step into the dating world again, OK, so that's when shopping. I'm first stepping into the dating world again. Probably, I'm guessing via the apps that are sort of winking at you from the screen of your phone like they do, calling you from the ether. OK, what does it look like if you make parents go back up to that dating world? OK, three cards. What does it look like if my ex and I get back together down the road or if she would dance? Should we remain friends? Or should we should remain friends? Oh my God, it's Mercury retrograde also mean Eisler. All right, so I'm going to ask, what would it look like if you guys got back together down the road? And so, you know, if we see lovely cards, we know that that's a thumbs up. And if we see some heinous cards, we'll know for you to avoid that. Do not flirt with that situation or call it into your life. OK, so three cards on your future romantic prospects with the X. And now what does it look like if I maintain the status quo and keep concentrating on myself, my littles and my chosen family for now? Yeah, I'm right. I mean, that's a handful like one relationship, one child, one never mind a relationship and multiple children and say, I don't care. I mean, it's all a lie. It's all a lie. And we all want to live the biggest lives we can. And sometimes it can be really hard to know when we put the brakes on and when we when we don't, when we fling the gates open. But what does it look like if you just like press pause for second, right? So curious as to what the cards are going to say. All right. So back into the dating world, we have Knight of Cups. So yeah, you want to get back into the dating world? Three of wands, virtue and two of swords. Peace. Wow, that's lovely. Yes, I would say, you know, I really especially like this because that virtue card is so it's so affirming in that peace card that two of swords is so, you know, the two of swords means different things to different decks. I like to read that the top deck gives it is about peace of mind. And so if you're concerned, like, I don't know, I have, you know, I have these past traumas. I have these standards. I don't know. I feel like this reading is like, You got this. Don't worry, have peace of mind. Follow your heart. The night of cups just want you to be out there with an open heart looking like, Who can I dote upon? Who wants to dote upon me? You know that virtue card the The Sun in Aries? I really love that card. I really feel like it's about like you're putting your energy right in the right place, like it is correct for you to reenter the dating world right now. That is that is a powerful yes to me. OK, now you and the X. Oh my Jesus, you've got the art part, OK? Oh, and the disappointment card. Oh, in the lovers. Oh no, what are you guys doing? Are you guys like one of those twin flame couples like, I don't. Well, somebody please explain. Twin flames to me. Is it like soulmates but toxic? Is that what it is? It's like this looks like you guys will get back together, but it looks like OK, the art card is a marriage card, OK? It is a it's a commitment card. It is a merging card. Are you guys really codependent? I mean. Oh yeah. Yeah, everybody's like, OK, I got it. The lovers like, You're definitely going to have the opportunity to get back with this person in the future if you want the other half of your soul. I mean, I don't know. I got my soul is in one piece of my body or I'm floating above my head or something. That disappointment card is interesting. OK, I want to say that the art card in the lovers cards as positive major arcana does sort of outweigh the five of cups. You know what I mean? But and it could be that, like you guys disappointed each other. I mean, it sounds like you feel betrayed. If I'm if I'm reading into this correctly, you feel betrayed by your ex. You were disappointed. Like this might be a way to heal it. This might be a way for you to look at this person honestly and then get back with them. Do you know what I mean? Like, no illusions. Like, really, I would say it's OK to investigate it, but you need to be really paying attention to red flags. And you're. And your own expectations, make sure your expectations are syncs up with what this person is really able to give. OK. Because, you know, one of the reads on the top five of cups is the expectations were much too high. So maybe expectations were too high last time. Maybe that's something to look at this time. It doesn't mean it's bad to have high expectations, but you need to be realistic if the people that you're interacting with can meet you there, right? So that's that's what it is. But damn, you guys do have a very powerful connection and you have not seen the last of each other. That could have been worse, you guys, right? It could have been. There's a lot more gnarly cards that could have come up for that. OK, what does it look like for you to maintain the status quo? Eight of this prudence, seven of this failure and the death card, you know, they're a day get out there and date. Are you going to die if you don't know you're not going to, but you might feel a little stagnant or like things are passing you by. Like, I don't like that. It's really interesting that you got the prudence card for four, you know, not dating. And that would be a prudent thing to do right to keep the focus on your chosen family. But then it turns into this sort of festering failure in this loss card with the death card. So it's not right for you to be prudent right now. It's right for you to go out. Maybe you just need to like wash that ex out of your hair. You know, I really find that fun. Sex with a new person really, really puts your ex even further in the past. It really just boots them way back, way back into the back, the Jurassic period or something. I'm so glad that that's helpful, and I love helping. OK. Oh my God, we get to be more minutes that went by so fast, you guys. This is so fun. I love doing this. I'm so grateful for all of you who come and participate or even just listen. You know, we need you guys to listen. Tell your friends about it. Every Thursday. I'm here every Thursday, Six O'Clock Pacific, 9:00 Eastern. And yeah, I love this. Let me let me grab one more person from the room. OK, Azure and Azure. I hope I'm saying your name, right? It is. It's a word that I've read a million times and said out loud. Very infrequent.

Querent: It's all right. Forgive me, I'm a little bit nervous about this.

Querent: Oh, OK, so am I. Don't worry, but we're going to get through it together. Hi, can I help you? What would you like to know? OK, so okay. So I'm just starting on this journey on my bitchy path here, and I'm realizing from even way back when that I've always. My dreams have always been super powerful. And I'm kind of just thinking, what is it look like if I go down that road?

Michelle Tea: Cool. OK, so what does it look like if you go down this witchy path that you're now kind of recognizing, it has been beckoning to you for a long time and that influences your dreams. You believe that, right?

Querent: Yeah, I'm, you know, just the world and dream work really well.

Michelle Tea: Into the world of DreamWorks specifically. I love that. OK, what does it look like for you to put energy into entering the world of DreamWorks? Well, think give it one more shuffle for what that looks like for you, for you right now, right? Because it's all about timing. Okay. Well, good. It looks really good, but you need to sort something out first. You need to figure out. It's almost like you have two different paths, or you need to be able to give yourself over to it fully. I'm saying this because the very first card that came up is the prince of Cups, and he is just sort of like paralyzed with indecision a little bit, right? And it's because the stakes are so high. Prince, of course, is a Scorpio. And, you know, Scorpios have that reputation as being controlling. But I really believe it's because they feel things so, so hugely that it's in their best interest to control the environments a little bit because it really kind of puts them through it. You know, I don't know if you guys, I think that's true. I'd like to hear from a Scorpio. But anyway, in this in this card, the prince is either, you know, he's either he could either go really high or go really low, and he's not doing either. He's just sort of stuck in the middle. So you need to break that, that status that you're in. And then the next card you get is the ace of Swords. So it's like, yes, just doing it, starting a new a new cycle. It's mental. It's air, which feels a little dreamy to me. It's our minds, right? Creating or channeling whatever, whatever the hell we're doing when we're dreaming. But what I'm really persuaded by is the final card is the six of wands, which is victory. It's a very big yes, it's Jupiter in Leo. It's like, Yes, this is this is an area that you will shine. This is an area that will bring gifts to you and to your life. So, so yeah, it seems like maybe I don't know if there's an aspect of it that you're a little cloudy about. You maybe don't know what your first step might be. I would try maybe meditating on it with that ace of swords, you know, to try to get some clarity. But once you get, clarity will come. And once you do get that clarity, yeah, you should. You got to do it.

Querent: Yeah, that that definitely tracks because I so bad at meditating.

Michelle Tea: Well, you know, that's the whole point. Nobody's going to meditating. Everybody's mind yells at them when they meditate. It's it's all about learning, like the nature of the thoughts a little bit. But but yeah, you know, you don't have to meditate, but you do need to get a little bit more clear about how you're going to proceed down this path. And it's there for us there. So well, good luck to you.

Querent: Thank you.

Michelle Tea: You're welcome. That's so cool. Oh my God, I love dreams. I got new melatonin gummies, and they are like my little oblivion nuggets that I take every night and they give me the wildest dreams. I'm really into it. OK, you guys, we're all done here. This has been very fun and I really appreciate all of you. Showing up and participating will be back here next Thursday. And again, if you want to hear back episodes, back rooms, back episodes of Ask the Tarot. Just go to Spotify. Search for your magic. That's my podcast and you'll find Ask the Tarot Room's there among all of the all of the podcasts, and you might like the podcasts also. All right, you guys till next Thursday. Thank you and have a great weekend, and I'll see you later.

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